This is a great question, and one that deserves your full attention to the answer. Let me start by saying first that falling, or experiencing failure does not need to be interpreted as you, yourself being a failure, but rather, as a stepping stone to better things. There have been numerous instances in which I have experienced failure, but subsequently learned from it, and improved my game. (I am not referring to golf, but you could apply it to that as well).

I am not suggesting that you need to rejoice in failure, but rather, that by looking at it the right way, you can turn a disappointment into something that will serve you well for a future occasion. Easy to say, I know, but worth the effort to practice. Let me ask you this, "Have you been disappointed before, because a plan did not work out?" I of course know the answer, but it's worth asking, and thinking about. I am sure that if you are like most people, there would have been disappointments, and you may well have felt really low for a while. I certainly have. However, I have worked hard on developing a thick skin, and an educated method of turning an unpleasant disappointment to my favour. Not always easy, but worth practicing.

An example was a position I was once competing for. I really wanted that particular position, and was quite disappointed when I was not selected. However, the experience taught me a few things that helped me with the next position, and also gave me the opportunity to be available for the better position that was just around the corner.

I know it is easy to say all of this, and quite challenging to still remain positive and 'happy' about an apparent disappointment, but I can assure you, that with time, you will see the results of this point. As an exercise, it can be worth actually writing everything down that you wish for, in terms of goals, and desires, and predicted dates. Now, as a further point, take the time to write the future date, and then state the goal, as if you already have it. I have specifically suggested this technique, as this way, instead of thinking about something that will happen, you are training your subconscious mind to accept and believe that you already have your goal. Now, by following this principle, and saying you have your goals achieved, or better, you will start to see the changes over time, that are positive. In fact, you will find, if you look back over a period of a year, that some goals were not achieved, but that other, better ones materialised. This is part of the way that the universe works. You will more clearly see, in this manner, that some failures actually produced better results a little later, that would not have been possible if you had achieved the first goal. I know this is an issue that some people may have to get their heads around, but my point is that some failures can actually be conduits to better results in time.