This is like self confidence, and is a great question, and one that deserves your full attention to the answer. Let me start by saying first that falling, or experiencing failure does not need to be interpreted as you, yourself being a failure, but rather, as a stepping stone to better things. There have been numerous instances in which I have experienced failure, but subsequently learned from it, and improved my game. (I am not referring to golf, but you could apply it to that as well).

I am not suggesting that you need to rejoice in failure, but rather, that by looking at it the right way, you can turn a disappointment into something that will serve you well for a future occasion. Easy to say, I know, but worth the effort to practice. Let me ask you this, "Have you been disappointed before, because a plan did not work out?" I of course know the answer, but it's worth asking, and thinking about. I am sure that if you are like most people, there would have been disappointments, and you may well have felt really low for a while. I certainly have. However, I have worked hard on developing a thick skin, and an educated method of turning an unpleasant disappointment to my favour. Not always easy, but worth practicing.

An example was a position I was once competing for. I really wanted that particular position, and was quite disappointed when I was not selected. However, the experience taught me a few things that helped me with the next position, and also gave me the opportunity to be available for the better position that was just around the corner.

I know it is easy to say all of this, and quite challenging to still remain positive and 'happy' about an apparent disappointment, but I can assure you, that with time, you will see the results of this point. As an exercise, it can be worth actually writing everything down that you wish for, in terms of goals, and desires, and predicted dates. Now, as a further point, take the time to write the future date, and then state the goal, as if you already have it. I have specifically suggested this technique, as this way, instead of thinking about something that will happen, you are training your subconscious mind to accept and believe that you already have your goal. Now, by following this principle, and saying you have your goals achieved, or better, you will start to see the changes over time, that are positive. In fact, you will find, if you look back over a period of a year, that some goals were not achieved, but that other, better ones materialised. This is part of the way that the universe works. You will more clearly see, in this manner, that some failures actually produced better results a little later, that would not have been possible if you had achieved the first goal. I know this is an issue that some people may have to get their heads around, but my point is that some failures can actually be conduits to better results in time.

This is a great question, and one that deserves your full attention to the answer. Let me start by saying first that falling, or experiencing failure does not need to be interpreted as you, yourself being a failure, but rather, as a stepping stone to better things. There have been numerous instances in which I have experienced failure, but subsequently learned from it, and improved my game. (I am not referring to golf, but you could apply it to that as well).

I am not suggesting that you need to rejoice in failure, but rather, that by looking at it the right way, you can turn a disappointment into something that will serve you well for a future occasion. Easy to say, I know, but worth the effort to practice. Let me ask you this, "Have you been disappointed before, because a plan did not work out?" I of course know the answer, but it's worth asking, and thinking about. I am sure that if you are like most people, there would have been disappointments, and you may well have felt really low for a while. I certainly have. However, I have worked hard on developing a thick skin, and an educated method of turning an unpleasant disappointment to my favour. Not always easy, but worth practicing.

An example was a position I was once competing for. I really wanted that particular position, and was quite disappointed when I was not selected. However, the experience taught me a few things that helped me with the next position, and also gave me the opportunity to be available for the better position that was just around the corner.

I know it is easy to say all of this, and quite challenging to still remain positive and 'happy' about an apparent disappointment, but I can assure you, that with time, you will see the results of this point. As an exercise, it can be worth actually writing everything down that you wish for, in terms of goals, and desires, and predicted dates. Now, as a further point, take the time to write the future date, and then state the goal, as if you already have it. I have specifically suggested this technique, as this way, instead of thinking about something that will happen, you are training your subconscious mind to accept and believe that you already have your goal. Now, by following this principle, and saying you have your goals achieved, or better, you will start to see the changes over time, that are positive. In fact, you will find, if you look back over a period of a year, that some goals were not achieved, but that other, better ones materialised. This is part of the way that the universe works. You will more clearly see, in this manner, that some failures actually produced better results a little later, that would not have been possible if you had achieved the first goal. I know this is an issue that some people may have to get their heads around, but my point is that some failures can actually be conduits to better results in time.

For many people, their initial belief is that they are organised, and are 'on track', and in your case, you may actually be on track. However, I have found that many people who think they are travelling in the right direction, find they can substantially improve their tracking, by understanding the concepts I will mention below.

To suitably understand my point, I ask a number of questions of people, and ask they really sit down, and start writing their desires, no matter how fanciful they may seem. At this point, it is necessary, to simply let your imagination go, and write everything down. Do not make the mistake of pre judging, and eliminating your desires or goals. This is a crucial point to note, as you need to be honest with yourself, and write what you really want.

It is unimportant how you will achieve these goals at this stage, as that is not a necessary ingredient to success, at this point. To understand this point better, you only need to look back in history, at all the great achievements and inventions, and see how many people started, not quite knowing how they would get to their destination, save for the determination to press on. In most cases, the hardest part is to actually start, and once you are on your way, you will find that ideas, and the knowledge you require will come to you. This is not hype, but based on my experience, as well as the teachings of others before me. To fully appreciate this point, it is beneficial to read the Think and Grow Rich Book by Napoleon Hill, as the point of desire is explained very well, in that by deeply desiring a thing, you will be persistent, and determined to break through any obstacles.

When a person gives up, they simply do not desire something very much. It sounds harsh but is true.

Please do not confuse this point with the need to sometimes modify your direction, to achieve your goals, as you will often find that to solve some problems you may encounter on the way, you need to deviate to reach the final destination. This is not the same as giving up at all. To fully understand this point, it is essential to ensure you have laser sharp focus in all you do.

To give you an example of this point, I frequently start my day with a list in my diary of over 15 items to do, but will ensure that when I am doing a particular task, I focus on that task alone, and will only look at the next one, when I have completed the first task. This is imperative, as otherwise, your mind is simply unfocused, and your mental energy is wasted, not to mention a squandering of your time.

To conclude, by being deeply focused on your specific task, after listing them down, you will find your achievements massively increase. This can be best proven after you start your application of this principle, and may I suggest, you start today, and not procrastinate till tomorrow.